Lately, I've been writing a bit of EvE inspired poetry. I don't know who it was in my Alliance that really started it all, but I'm blaming Soro for having such an awesome parody of a Robert Burns poem.
During a rare moment of respite at work, I jotted down a few lines of another poem-a very rough draft-that won't be shown until after my Poetry Contest has finished up. While working on it, I had a thought. Does EvE really matter? Now, hold on, don't go all crazy on me! I know there are differing sides, the whole tongue-in-cheek (though sometimes seriously taken) 'EvE is Real', right along side the 'EvE is just a game everyone!'. I actually agree with both, to a certain degree.
As a part-time PvPer, I realize that KillBoards are used by many people to judge 'how good we are' at playing. Don't get me wrong, I like seeing my KB in the green, but that's not really why I play. At the end of the day, I don't really care if it's positive or negative, because it doesn't really matter. I play to have fun. That might seem overly simple, but it really is that basic for me. If I didn't have fun playing EvE, guess what? I wouldn't play! Mind-blowing, ain't it?
The way I look at it, if I get to the point where I obsess over my KB, get angry and dwell on my losses, take things out of game, or think that someone is 'bad at EvE' or that I'm 'better than they are' because their KillBoard is better than mine, then I need to take a deep breath, step back, and honestly take a break from playing. Why should I let a game effect the way I view myself (be it self-esteem/self-worth or anything else), get me so angry I lose my temper, or say/do things I regret? Basically, if I let something I do in-game negatively effect me in the real world, then there is a problem!
So, is EvE 'Real' then? YES! Why do I say that if I just wrote that it's just a game, and I shouldn't let it effect me in the Real World? Simple. The game, even though I love playing and intend to do so for months, years and maybe more, isn't real. The people behind the screens ARE. I've met some amazing people both in-game and at Player Meets. Many of them I consider to be real-life friends, even if we've never met in real-life. Many times we talk about what's going on IRL with us, the birth of a child, the problems at work. Sometimes we confide in each other. We ask for advice. Much of what we get out of EvE, it seems, isn't about EvE at all. It's about living, and life. EvE brings people together, and that is what makes EvE 'Real'. Without it, most of us would never have gotten to know one another. We'd never have had MeetUps, FanFest, or any of these great an wonderful Events that get us out of our houses, into the Real World, and interacting with genuine, wonderful people.
So Eve doesn't really matter... but we have plenty of reasons to Love EvE.